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Question: As a divorced solo with middle grade school children, my children resent the facts: my ex has a spouse, a new family, her children full time in the house. Nothing I say helps. What can I do?
Response: The realities of divorce are difficult for children to accept. Children may want things just like they were in the past: familiar and comforting. Now they must adjust and share a parent. Scheduling time alone with their father could be helpful, planning new activities for you and the children ensures new memories and promotes bonding. Locate resources to aid them in coping with changes in the family dynamics. Be aware how you are handling the facts.
Question: Who goes where? Spring break and I struggle as a single with children, it is not easy going alone with them, it isn't the same. And sometimes we (ex) both want the kids for spring break, sometimes I want to run away myself. The kids have another whole view of "spring break." Help!
Response: Busy scheduled lives, peers, expectations, and needed breaks, let alone divided households sometimes do not fall together nicely by themselves. Solutions are possible with discussions, compromising, and with goals of keeping children safe, yet providing quality family time these few short years they possess childhood.
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